What If I Could Promise You Near-Instant Liberation From The Crazy Committee of Chaos That Lives Inside Your Head?
By learning to become the observer, not the believer, of your ruminating brain
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"I'm a complete failure as a human being. I've tried therapy, books, everything, but nothing ever changes. I must just be fundamentally broken."
Over my 40+ years as a therapist, I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard something like this from the men and women I’ve worked with.
These folks have always stood out to me. Not because they’re actually terrible people, but because of the dramatic gap between who they really are and how they see themselves.
Some would come to therapy for years but never take any meaningful action. Others would make significant changes, then swear nothing was different about them.
But they all had one thing in common. They all believed their negatively distorted self-reflections were 100% true and accurate. No matter what evidence was put in front of them.
And the cost of this was devastating. I watched it wreck marriages, derail careers, and rob good people of years of happiness.
Does any of this sound familiar?
If you live with a critical internal voice running like an endlessly spinning washing machine, following you everywhere, turning every moment into evidence of your failure…
If life feels paralyzing as you overthink every decision until opportunities pass you by…
If relationships feel impossible, either you avoid them entirely, or build walls that ironically prevent the connection you desperately want…
If you’re experiencing the pain I’ve seen in my clients’ eyes when they describe this experience. The isolation.
The self-loathing. The exhaustion from never getting a moment’s peace in their own minds.
Then, here’s a truth that can change everything…
The problem you’re struggling with is not what you think. You’re not a defective person. You’re more than good enough. AND YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY FIX IT!
“You mean my brain has a programming flaw, but I don't?!”
These were the words a successful real estate entrepreneur asked me while smiling through tears. I smiled back, crying right along with him.
“Not at all. You just inherited a ruminating brain that finds a way to beat you up and keep you feeling miserable.”
Rumination is a pathological obsession with your pain, and it’s the #1 symptom of depression. When your brain ruminates, it spins like a washing machine on an endless cycle, repeatedly churning through the same thoughts, wearing you down until you believe every negative thing it tells you.
This isn’t your fault. It’s not a character defect or a weakness of will. It’s an inherited brain type – passed down from your parents just like your eye color or the shape of your nose.
And the key to liberation lies in becoming the observer of your ruminating brain, not its believer. To do this effectively, you need to recognize the three distinct rumination patterns and identify which ones dominate your thinking, so you can learn the tools to overcome them.
The Past
The first rumination pattern keeps you trapped in what’s already happened.
If you rehash the same perceived mistake every day for thirty years, of course you’re going to feel like a piece of shit about yourself.
Your brain spins endlessly, replaying embarrassing moments and missed opportunities, when most of them weren’t any big deal or are long forgotten by everyone else.
You create revisionist histories of how perfect life would have been “if only,” then beat yourself up comparing your real life to this fiction.
No wonder you feel stuck, miserable, and fundamentally flawed.
You’re carrying your entire distorted past on your shoulders everywhere you go.
Self and Other
The second rumination pattern wrecks your relationships.
If you believe you’re not good enough, defective, or unlovable, it’s only a matter of time before people discover the same thing.
So you either never approach and try to connect with anybody, or you build walls to keep people from getting to know the “real you.”
You obsess over what others think, take everything personally, and compare yourself to arbitrary standards where you always come up short.
You collect evidence of your unlovability like a prosecutor building a case, while dismissing any positive feedback.
When relationships inevitably suffer from all these walls and fears, your brain says, “See? More proof you’re unlovable” – creating a vicious cycle that keeps you isolated, reinforcing the very beliefs that are causing your suffering.
The Future
The third rumination pattern keeps you completely stuck.
Your brain constantly tells you either “nothing will ever change” or “disaster is just around the corner.”
You get trapped in analysis paralysis, trying to figure out every possible outcome before taking any action.
You catastrophize every possibility, demand perfection from yourself, and worry about things that will probably never happen.
This leads to procrastination – “I’ll do it later” – or escape into fantasy worlds where everything works out perfectly without effort.
Meanwhile, your real life stays exactly the same. You spin your wheels mentally while going nowhere physically.
You think a lot about stuff but never actually do anything, which just reinforces your belief that nothing ever changes or improves.
The Answer is to Become the Observer, Not the Believer, of Your Ruminating Brain
I want you to be happy. I want you to be successful. I want you to find love. I want you to love your life. I want you to experience fulfillment.
Observing your ruminating brain instead of believing everything it tells you, is your path forward.
As you do, you’ll experience an almost immediate sense of liberation. It’s like suddenly realizing you’ve been wearing uncomfortable shoes your whole life. The relief is that dramatic.
You might not believe it, but I’ve watched hundreds of people learn this skill and experience all these things as a result… Almost instantly. Just by learning to see their ruminating patterns rather than being consumed by them.
Everything changes when you start observing these patterns rather than living inside them.
Introducing
The Ruminating Brain
This eight-lesson on-demand video course will teach you how to live with, and maybe even come to enjoy and smile at your ruminating brain. You’ll learn to turn your biggest critic into your staunchest ally.
Your Ruminating Brain will try to talk you out of this… It’s almost parasitical in nature, working hard to keep its place in your head. It will say, “This won’t work for you,” or “You’re different,” or “You’ll do it later.” Don’t believe it. That’s just your ruminating brain trying to protect itself.
Since 2015, thousands of people have taken this course and experienced life transformations similar to that real estate agent in a workshop in Puerto Vallarta. They’ve found relief from their negative beliefs about themselves and the world. And what one person can do, you can do too.
Here’s what you’ll get:
- 8 comprehensive video lessons where I'll walk you through understanding and managing your ruminating brain
- Freedom to do them at your own pace, as fast or as slow as you want
- 8 practical homework videos with specific assignments to apply what you're learning
- Bonus practices & support videos including meditations and guided imagery to help reinforce the concepts
I’ve designed this course to provide both the understanding and the practical tools you need to break free from the grip of your ruminating brain.
Here’s what’s waiting for you inside:
Lesson 1: Turn Your Biggest Critic Into Your Staunchest Ally
- Discover why you're not broken or defective so you can stop carrying toxic self-blame for something that was never your fault.
- Learn the observer technique so you can step outside your ruminating thoughts instead of being pulled into every negative spiral.
- Master a simple notebook practice so you can catch rumination before it takes over and redirect it instead of losing hours to mental spinning.
Lesson 2: Thanks Mom & Dad: How You Got Your Ruminating Brain
- Understand how you inherited your ruminating brain so you can stop blaming yourself for something that was never your fault.
- Learn why empathy and compassion are essential for healing so you can rewire your brain for better well-being instead of staying stuck in self-hatred.
- Get a simple practice that physically changes your brain structure so you can experience the same well-being benefits as Buddhist monks who train in compassion.
Lesson 3: Waking Up
- Discover why your ruminating brain is actually a gift and blessing so you can stop seeing decades of suffering as meaningless pain.
- Learn how your ruminating brain can be the "big stick" that wakes you up so you can transform your greatest struggle into your path to freedom.
- Get a simple daily practice that creates lasting transformation so you can build the foundation for all the changes you want to make in your life.
Lesson 4: Releasing Toxic Shame
- Discover why your toxic shame comes from completely inaccurate childhood interpretations so you can stop believing lies that were never true about you.
- Understand the two essential steps that are the only way to release toxic shame so you can finally break free from decades of self-hatred without skipping the difficult but necessary work.
- Master a practice that actively rewires your shame-based thinking so you can find safe people to reveal yourself to and focus on your best things instead of constantly ruminating about your worst.
Lesson 5: Learning to Love Your Inner Critic
- Discover the shocking realization about being "judgmental about being judgmental" so you can stop the resistance that's been making your critical patterns persist and grow stronger.
- Find out how learning to love your critic transforms it into a teacher and wake-up call so you can turn your biggest tormentor into a valuable alarm system that brings you back to the present moment.
- Master the powerful Obsess Appointment technique and other practices so you can ruminate consciously, practice thought stopping, and transform your relationship with your inner critic.
Lesson 6: Ten Terrible Truths About Your Mind
- Discover your "Occurring World" and how it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy so you can stop unconsciously creating the painful patterns you've been trapped in your entire life.
- Understand how to consciously choose which thoughts to attune yourself to from thousands of daily options so you can experience the same circumstances in completely different and empowering ways.
- Master a practice that exposes your faulty thinking patterns and helps you create empowering new beliefs so you can work with safe people to completely transform how you experience yourself and the world.
Lesson 7: Make Your Bedroom a Rumination-Free Zone
- Discover how to turn your bedroom into a "non-rumination zone" so you can finally get the quality sleep you need without your mind spinning about problems that can't be solved at 2 am.
- Learn the gentle but powerful thought stopping technique with a specific script so you can immediately redirect your ruminating brain whenever it tries to hijack your peace and presence.
- Get a complete system for creating your personal rumination-free zones and building "I'll handle it" confidence so you can transform both your sleep and your ability to manage any challenge that comes your way.
Lesson 8: Letting Love In
- Discover why relationships create the "perfect storm" with ruminating brains so you can stop blaming yourself for decades of relationship struggles and understand it was never your fault.
- Understand how to build a "relationship posse" that provides concrete support so you can have objective voices of reason when your ruminating brain is spinning instead of navigating relationship challenges alone.
- Find out how to break destructive fantasy patterns and get off the fence so you can stop the painful debating of every decision and practice getting all in or all out instead of sitting in relationship limbo.
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Meet Your Instructor
Dr. Robert Glover
Hi there, I’m Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy and creator of The Ruminating Brain.
For years, as a therapist, I kept encountering certain clients who puzzled me. They were often intelligent, successful, and had everything going for them. Yet they were absolutely miserable. They’d stay stuck for months or years, constantly rehashing past mistakes, comparing themselves negatively to others, and catastrophizing about the future.
No matter what therapeutic approaches I tried, nothing seemed to help them break free from their internal suffering.
Then, in 2012, during a small workshop in Puerto Vallarta, I met a participant who embodied this pattern perfectly. He was tall, good-looking, intelligent, and successful in real estate—but completely convinced he was a failure as a husband, father, and human being. That’s when I first shared my theory about the “ruminating brain.”
When I told him his mind had a programming flaw, but he didn’t, he started to cry and asked, “So what do I do?” That question prompted me to develop this entire course.
Over the past decade, I’ve refined these concepts and tools through working with hundreds of people who struggle with ruminating brains. I’ve watched them transform from individuals plagued by chronic self-criticism and analysis paralysis into people who can observe their patterns, manage their thoughts, and ultimately find happiness.
If you’re tired of feeling like your own worst enemy and ready to turn your biggest critic into your staunchest ally, The Ruminating Brain will show you exactly how to do it.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if I have a ruminating brain?
If you constantly rehash past mistakes, worry about the future, compare yourself negatively to others, or feel like your mind never stops spinning with self-critical thoughts, you likely have a ruminating brain. The course will help you identify your specific patterns in Lesson 1.
Is this therapy or does it replace therapy?
No, this is not therapy. I’m sharing educational concepts and tools I’ve developed over 40+ years as a therapist. This course can complement therapy but doesn’t replace professional mental health treatment. If you’re dealing with severe depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues, please work with a qualified professional.
Will this work if I've tried everything else?
Most people with ruminating brains have tried many approaches that didn’t work because they were designed for “normal” brains. These tools are specifically created for minds that won’t stop spinning. The key is understanding you’re not broken—you just need different strategies.
How much time does this require?
Each lesson is 30-60 minutes, and you go at your own pace. The homework assignments take 10-30 minutes daily. The most important thing is consistency, not speed. Many people see shifts within the first week of applying the tools.
Do I have to do this alone?
Absolutely not. In fact, I strongly recommend finding “safe people” to support you—a coach, therapist, support group, or trusted friends. Don’t do this work in isolation. The course teaches you how to find and work with safe people.
Is this too "spiritual" or "new age"?
Not at all. While I include some meditation and gratitude practices, everything is grounded in practical psychology and neuroscience. I’m not particularly metaphysical—these are proven tools that work regardless of your spiritual beliefs.
What if I can't stop my ruminating brain?
The goal isn’t to stop it—that’s impossible and would make you more frustrated. The goal is to become the observer of your ruminating brain instead of being controlled by it. You’ll learn to work with it, not against it.
How long do I have access to the course?
You have lifetime access to all videos and materials. You can revisit lessons as often as needed and go at whatever pace works for you.
Will this work for severe rumination or just mild cases?
The tools work for all levels of ruminating brain intensity. Some of my most dramatic success stories have been with people who had severe, lifelong patterns. However, if you’re dealing with clinical depression or anxiety, please also work with a mental health professional.
Can I do this if I'm taking medication for anxiety/depression?
Yes, this course is designed to work alongside any treatment you’re already receiving. Always consult with your doctor about your medication, but these tools complement rather than replace medical treatment.
What makes this different from other self-help approaches?
Most self-help assumes you need to “fix” yourself or become better. This course is about accepting and working with who you already are. It’s specifically designed for ruminating brains, not generic advice that works for everyone else but fails for people like us
What if I don't do the homework?
The homework is where the real change happens. Your ruminating brain will try to talk you out of doing it, but that’s exactly why you need to do it. The tools only work if you work them. I’d rather you do one exercise consistently than watch all the videos without taking action.
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